It was on my mind all night last night...
Someone I trust said to me...
"I really think at this point you've gotten all you can from him. You've done everything he's asked of you...you've paid your dues...enough is enough... I don't think you should waste anymore of your time...You need to know where he stands. Ask him his opinion! How much longer he thinks he needs to see you!"
When somethings on my mind...it keeps me up all night!
I rehearsed what to say when I saw him...
I practiced it all morning...I have to do that with everything I'm uncomfortable with, do you? I guess I am just way too nice and I don't like confrontation. I want to be every one's friend and not hurt any one's feelings. I talked about it with a good friend of mine during the school day, and she agreed! I just wasn't satisfied, I was still hurting and in pain. I was putting in the time, and not really getting the results I wanted. sometimes...it's just time!
Sooooooooooo, when he came in the room.............I tried. I really, really did...
I swear for those of you that KNOW ME!!! I told him I thought I needed to move on...
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| me trying to look really, really tough.... |
But....it didn't work!
He said he wouldn't let me go until he figured me out!
So, I got flustered...
and I'm still paying $50 bucks a session... hmmm?
So, tell me...
Has anyone out there ever been strung on by a professional who thinks he can fix you? Maybe he can...but do you continue to put in the time, the money...or move on? Have you ever felt they were just in it to "impress" the big guys...or to truly help you?
Any other women out there born without "balls" just like me? Sorry, tacky I know...but true!
That's hard to do. I also dislike confrontation.
ReplyDeleteI totally avoid it...but my husband would argue otherwise :)
DeleteYou sound very NICE. I haven't had anyone accuse me of being too nice in a long time. However, if it was someone telling me how perfect I was, I would probably keep forking out the dough. :)
ReplyDeleteVery funny Raina....You seem nice to me:) I wish he would tell me I'm perfect...I think this ART guy just wants to impress my doc!
DeleteI would seek a 2nd opinion. You don't even have to tell the doc what you're doing. It's your health insurance & your money. When it comes to dealing with things that affect something I love (Running), I put me first. I've also not been accused of being nice in a very long time either. ha!
ReplyDeleteThanks!
Deleteya'll crack me up with your own views on how nice you are...I think you're nice for the comments...:)
Seeking a second opinion would be my suggestion. How long have you been with your doctor? (PT or regular dr?) Can he provide you with a plan of action and a back up plan?
ReplyDeleteI hope everything works out for you. If you can't "break up" with him in person, do it over the phone.
Yeah, there's a back up plan...my pt and doc want that...this ART guy is holding me up! Over the phone...hmm, too grade schoolish?
DeleteI agree, time to stop wasting your money and move on...You seem like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders! xoxo
ReplyDeleteyeah, the money thing is killing me...my pt doesn't even charge me a copay because Iv'e been going so long...this ART thing is EXPENSIVE!!
DeleteI tried a couple of ART docs before I found one that I felt really knew what he was doing and it did make a difference for me. I went behind the first doc's back with the second one - I guess that means i don't have scruples! Ha ha! Anyway - the right thing to do is what you NEED to do, right? Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWell, as much as I avoid confrontation I hate waiting my money and time, if I see a professional and can't leave his/her office feeling a difference I give them one more change then call and cancel the next appointment and not sure I want to continue at this time. I will not see and ART doc that does not run or do tri, you have to understand what I do for me to trust you with my body.
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I'm inclined to confrontation. I don't seek it out, but I don't shy away. I'd suggest finding another ART person and a good massage therapist. That combo seems to work well for me anyway :) And ART is $115 for a 30-min session in these parts!
ReplyDeleteSaw your very moving comment on my dad post. I wanted to email you a reply but had no way to do it. Thanks so so much. You totally understand :)
I meant every word I said!
Deleteyour very welcome!
I would simply call the front office and say that you can't make that appointment and you will call to re-schedule at a later time. Then just don't call. There is really no reason that I can think of to formally "break it off" with the doctor in person..anymore than you would personally tell the cook at a local restaurant if the food was no longer to your liking.
ReplyDeleteI really like my ART doctor, and would go back again if I had a problem. That being said, when I wasn't getting the results I needed, I went to an Orthopedic doctor and something simple he told me helped me overcome IT band issues I had been plagued with for months.
Don't be formal, just don't go back....unless there are simply no other options for you. That is what I would do.
I wish you all the best, and hope you find a resolution.
Thanks Michael...simply put, totally understood:)
Deleteummm YES. i absolutely SUCK at saying NO. i really gotta keep working on this...and it is so frustrating when you try in your own way to move on from something or someone but your efforts are NOT understood, picked up on or received well. ahhhh. good luck friend! hope this will work out for you!
ReplyDeleteThank ya Julia...thank ya!
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